Turn Trauma into Future Breakthroughs

Growing up, my life was not easy! There is very little that you can tell me that I have not done or heard before. From growing up in a foster home, traveling around the world, not having proper education, getting married at a very young age, being a battered wife, having kids at a young age, being a single mother, losing a child and much more…. I felt rejected by the world. I felt like a failure and a loser, I almost gave up. The only things that spurred me on was the urge I had inside me to share the lessons I’ve learned in my life, and the promise of helping people and making a difference in the world.

Over the next few years I decided to become a life coach so I studied everything I could get my hands on to learn how to create the trainings that people really wanted, and how to explain the value of what was in those programs so they would see the value and invest in them. I also had to overcome a lot of my own personal character flaws. Things like fear of rejection, perfectionism, arrogance, fear of failure, and fear of success. Let me tell you, I was a mess. But it was worth it. I learned that I could have anything I wanted, if I put my mind to it.

What I love the most about my job is getting emails and Facebook comments from people whose lives are changing because of my programs. Seriously, watching people have huge breakthroughs and total life transformations because of what I’ve shared with them is absolutely priceless!

One other thing you might be interested to know is that while I’ve made my life I’ve also invested hundreds of thousands of dollars in training and coaching for myself. I needed to learn a lot and I needed to overcome a lot of my own “stuff” in order to get where I am today. It wasn’t easy.

I had to take many leaps of faith. And in the end, if I had known how hard it was going to be when I first started, I probably never would have gone for it. But it was worth all of the tests, challenges, and failures to be able to live my life on my own terms, and watch as the world changes because of what I’m teaching. 

I learned one way to become more successful in life is to find an edge, a special skill or, better yet, several special skills that set you apart from everyone else, Maybe it's mastering a unique way of look at life from different perspective, developing the ability to find answers to difficult questions that life throw at you.

Here is some tips for you to turn your life around for what you deserve:

Believe in yourself 

"Don't wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles, and less than perfect conditions. So what? Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident, and more and more successful." --Mark Victor Hansen

You know what that voice in your head says…you can't do it. You'll never be good enough. You're going to fail.

This voice taunts you whenever you set a goal. It criticizes you when life gets difficult. It beats you down when you struggle to stand up against its running commentary.

You know you shouldn't let self-doubt bother you, but it's a sneaky critter. Sometimes, you just can't contain it and it slips past your barriers.

And self-doubt is greedy. When it's loose, it devours your confidence, strips logic and reason from your mind, and steals happiness from your heart. In return, it leaves you with only fear and insecurity.

Learning how to recognize when your self-talk takes a turn for the worse is crucial. When you hear yourself saying, “I can't,” or, “I don't know,” or, “What if,” a red flag should go up.

Instead of telling yourself, “I can't do X,” say, “I can't do X yet. But I'm working on it.”

Or if you start wondering, “What if I fail?” you can respond by saying, “Then I'll try again.”

Doing this transforms a negative situation into an opportunity for growth. In the end, it's about giving yourself a chance.

Build self-confidence

If you are not confident enough, you’ll break like a twig the first time you face an obstacle. Whatever you want to achieve, there will be countless barriers questioning your competences. The only way to get through them is by being confident enough that you can and will. This confidence comes from within, from the deep belief in yourself and your abilities.

Count your wins

As human beings we naturally have the tendency to get stuck on the negative and think about all of our losses for the day, instead of counting our wins and finding all of the good that took place.

I use my gratitude journal to capture all of my wins at the end of each day. This can be the wins from today, last week, last month or even last year. It doesn’t really matter when, but the key is to just get in the habit of capturing all of your wins. This will bring you a complete sense of joy that will let you know that you have done some incredible things in the past and remind you that even bigger things can happen in the future. 

Whether big or small, it doesn’t matter -- just count your wins! 

Talk to yourself like a champion

"Talk to yourself more than you listen to yourself." Just for one week, try talking to yourself like a champion instead of listening to yourself as a victim. I guarantee that you will be blown away by the results. It may seem weird to talk to yourself, but give it a try and then see if it's worth the "weirdness."

Thinking positive and empowering thoughts is one thing but talking to yourself like a champion reconditions your thought process in an instant. When you form the habit of talking to yourself like a champion you don't give the negative and discouraging thoughts the time of day.

With power and conviction, repeat phrases such as, “I am the greatest at what I do,” “There is nothing that I can’t do when I fully commit to myself,” and “There is nothing ordinary about me”. Tell yourself “I am a champion.” 

If you don’t have a huge amount of belief in yourself, then there is no way you can expect anyone else to believe in you. If you are an employee, you can’t expect your boss to fully believe in you if you don’t even believe in yourself. If you are an entrepreneur, you can’t expect an investor to believe in your ideas if you don’t even believe in yourself.

The men and women that change the world all understand the incredible power of belief.